{"id":1739,"date":"2017-07-18T11:46:00","date_gmt":"2017-07-18T11:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/?p=1739"},"modified":"2024-01-16T12:09:54","modified_gmt":"2024-01-16T12:09:54","slug":"note21-so-that-i-dont-forget","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/en\/note21-so-that-i-dont-forget\/","title":{"rendered":"note#21: so that i dont forget"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1739\" class=\"elementor elementor-1739\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7285835 e-flex e-con-boxed wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"7285835\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4d53b86 elementor-widget elementor-widget-gallery\" data-id=\"4d53b86\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;columns&quot;:2,&quot;aspect_ratio&quot;:&quot;1:1&quot;,&quot;lazyload&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;gallery_layout&quot;:&quot;grid&quot;,&quot;columns_tablet&quot;:2,&quot;columns_mobile&quot;:1,&quot;gap&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:10,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;gap_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:10,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;gap_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:10,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;link_to&quot;:&quot;file&quot;,&quot;overlay_background&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;content_hover_animation&quot;:&quot;fade-in&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"gallery.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-gallery__container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"e-gallery-item elementor-gallery-item elementor-animated-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2764.jpg\" data-elementor-open-lightbox=\"yes\" data-elementor-lightbox-slideshow=\"4d53b86\" data-e-action-hash=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dlightbox%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6MTc0MSwidXJsIjoiaHR0cHM6XC9cL3d3dy50aGVyb2NjYWZhbWlseS5uZXRcL3dwLWNvbnRlbnRcL3VwbG9hZHNcLzIwMjNcLzEwXC9JTUdfMjc2NC5qcGciLCJzbGlkZXNob3ciOiI0ZDUzYjg2In0%3D\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-gallery-image elementor-gallery-item__image\" data-thumbnail=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2764.jpg\" data-width=\"2016\" data-height=\"1512\" aria-label=\"\" role=\"img\" ><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-gallery-item__overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"e-gallery-item elementor-gallery-item elementor-animated-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2760-rotated.jpg\" data-elementor-open-lightbox=\"yes\" data-elementor-lightbox-slideshow=\"4d53b86\" data-e-action-hash=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dlightbox%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6MTc0MCwidXJsIjoiaHR0cHM6XC9cL3d3dy50aGVyb2NjYWZhbWlseS5uZXRcL3dwLWNvbnRlbnRcL3VwbG9hZHNcLzIwMjNcLzEwXC9JTUdfMjc2MC1yb3RhdGVkLmpwZyIsInNsaWRlc2hvdyI6IjRkNTNiODYifQ%3D%3D\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-gallery-image elementor-gallery-item__image\" data-thumbnail=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2760-rotated.jpg\" data-width=\"1512\" data-height=\"2016\" aria-label=\"\" role=\"img\" ><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-gallery-item__overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-91550f7 e-flex e-con-boxed wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"91550f7\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7f75c2d ltr elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7f75c2d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s almost eight months now. We started with snow and now we are sweating. My constant worry is that i will forget, what if i go back to my life before the road trip and forget all the daily fantastical simple dreams and hopes of the road trip? The deep feelings of getting very close to what i want and how i want it, to being very honest with myself, to seeing very closely what makes sense and what does not, what\u2019s real and what\u2019s conditioned and fabricated. I already feel that i am forgetting, everyday brings a new surprise, a new hardship, a new disappointment that takes away from some of what i want to remember.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For now, this is what i want to remember:<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1- feeling lost is a constant, it\u2019s an instinct, it\u2019s who we are, it only gets numbed by things (distractions) like taking care of family, wars, raising children, falling in love, going to school, immigration, illness, age, money.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2- things are out of my control.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3- changing habits is not that hard.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4- all i want to do is create spaces of intimacy, i don\u2019t know anything, but i know that this is what i love to do and i am good at.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5- spaciousness is necessary.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6- to learn and keep learning, and once i stop wanting to learn then i know it\u2019s the end.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7- coping is an instinct too, we are all coping, no one is better than the other.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8- i no longer want to be in high consumption structures.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9- listening to birds early in the morning has changed me.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10- all relationships are bound to change, and that is a good thing.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">11- i no longer want to look for a home or the meaning of it.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">13- i want to want less.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">14- one dream is to create a network for queer arab women that will kick ass.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15- i love all the relationships and connections i have.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">16- my heart is my weapon.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">17- i accept death.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">18- music, i always dreamt of making and playing music and being surrounded by people who make music, i\u2019ve been trying since i was 9. It got interrupted by the death of my tutor, by war, by disappointment, by lack of confidence, by life. But i want to keep trying. I will keep trying.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">19- i believe there are aliens, because my brother does.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">20- my hardest relationship is with my father, it\u2019s always been and it will always be.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">21- my mother has protected me all along, how do i do my best to protect her?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">22- i want to stay away from crowds and loudness and fastness.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">23 &#8211; water is my home.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">24- i accept that everybody around me is feeling down, lost and helpless. Otherwise i would think they\/we have all gone mad.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">25- no complaints, more thank yous.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">26- my continuous struggle is the liberation from patriarchy in all its forms.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-311997b e-flex e-con-boxed wpr-particle-no wpr-jarallax-no wpr-parallax-no wpr-sticky-section-no e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"311997b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f96daa elementor-widget elementor-widget-gallery\" data-id=\"1f96daa\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;columns&quot;:2,&quot;aspect_ratio&quot;:&quot;1:1&quot;,&quot;lazyload&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;gallery_layout&quot;:&quot;grid&quot;,&quot;columns_tablet&quot;:2,&quot;columns_mobile&quot;:1,&quot;gap&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:10,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;gap_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:10,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;gap_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:10,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;link_to&quot;:&quot;file&quot;,&quot;overlay_background&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;content_hover_animation&quot;:&quot;fade-in&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"gallery.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-gallery__container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"e-gallery-item elementor-gallery-item elementor-animated-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2731.jpg\" data-elementor-open-lightbox=\"yes\" data-elementor-lightbox-slideshow=\"1f96daa\" data-e-action-hash=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dlightbox%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6MTc0MywidXJsIjoiaHR0cHM6XC9cL3d3dy50aGVyb2NjYWZhbWlseS5uZXRcL3dwLWNvbnRlbnRcL3VwbG9hZHNcLzIwMjNcLzEwXC9JTUdfMjczMS5qcGciLCJzbGlkZXNob3ciOiIxZjk2ZGFhIn0%3D\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-gallery-image elementor-gallery-item__image\" data-thumbnail=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2731.jpg\" data-width=\"2016\" data-height=\"1512\" aria-label=\"\" role=\"img\" ><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-gallery-item__overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"e-gallery-item elementor-gallery-item elementor-animated-content\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2728.jpg\" data-elementor-open-lightbox=\"yes\" data-elementor-lightbox-slideshow=\"1f96daa\" data-e-action-hash=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dlightbox%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6MTc0MiwidXJsIjoiaHR0cHM6XC9cL3d3dy50aGVyb2NjYWZhbWlseS5uZXRcL3dwLWNvbnRlbnRcL3VwbG9hZHNcLzIwMjNcLzEwXC9JTUdfMjcyOC5qcGciLCJzbGlkZXNob3ciOiIxZjk2ZGFhIn0%3D\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-gallery-image elementor-gallery-item__image\" data-thumbnail=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/IMG_2728.jpg\" data-width=\"2016\" data-height=\"1512\" aria-label=\"\" role=\"img\" ><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-gallery-item__overlay\"><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It\u2019s almost eight months now. We started with snow and now we are sweating. My constant worry is that i will forget, what if i go back to my life before the road trip and forget all the daily fantastical simple dreams and hopes of the road trip? The deep feelings of getting very close to what i want and how i want it, to being very honest with myself, to seeing very closely what makes sense and what does not, what\u2019s real and what\u2019s conditioned and fabricated. I already feel that i am forgetting, everyday brings a new surprise, a new hardship, a new disappointment that takes away from some of what i want to remember. For now, this is what i want to remember: 1- feeling lost is a constant, it\u2019s an instinct, it\u2019s who we are, it only gets numbed by things (distractions) like taking care of family, wars, raising children, falling in love, going to school, immigration, illness, age, money. 2- things are out of my control. 3- changing habits is not that hard. 4- all i want to do is create spaces of intimacy, i don\u2019t know anything, but i know that this is what i love to do and i am good at. 5- spaciousness is necessary. 6- to learn and keep learning, and once i stop wanting to learn then i know it\u2019s the end. 7- coping is an instinct too, we are all coping, no one is better than the other. 8- i no longer want to be in high consumption structures. 9- listening to birds early in the morning has changed me. 10- all relationships are bound to change, and that is a good thing. 11- i no longer want to look for a home or the meaning of it. 13- i want to want less. 14- one dream is to create a network for queer arab women that will kick ass. 15- i love all the relationships and connections i have. 16- my heart is my weapon. 17- i accept death. 18- music, i always dreamt of making and playing music and being surrounded by people who make music, i\u2019ve been trying since i was 9. It got interrupted by the death of my tutor, by war, by disappointment, by lack of confidence, by life. But i want to keep trying. I will keep trying. 19- i believe there are aliens, because my brother does. 20- my hardest relationship is with my father, it\u2019s always been and it will always be. 21- my mother has protected me all along, how do i do my best to protect her? 22- i want to stay away from crowds and loudness and fastness. 23 &#8211; water is my home. 24- i accept that everybody around me is feeling down, lost and helpless. Otherwise i would think they\/we have all gone mad. 25- no complaints, more thank yous. 26- my continuous struggle is the liberation from patriarchy in all its forms.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1743,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1739","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-road-notes"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>note#21: so that i dont forget - \u0639\u0627\u0626\u0644\u0629 \u0631\u0648\u0643\u0627<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.theroccafamily.net\/en\/note21-so-that-i-dont-forget\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"note#21: so that i dont forget - \u0639\u0627\u0626\u0644\u0629 \u0631\u0648\u0643\u0627\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"It\u2019s almost eight months now. We started with snow and now we are sweating. My constant worry is that i will forget, what if i go back to my life before the road trip and forget all the daily fantastical simple dreams and hopes of the road trip? The deep feelings of getting very close to what i want and how i want it, to being very honest with myself, to seeing very closely what makes sense and what does not, what\u2019s real and what\u2019s conditioned and fabricated. I already feel that i am forgetting, everyday brings a new surprise, a new hardship, a new disappointment that takes away from some of what i want to remember. For now, this is what i want to remember: 1- feeling lost is a constant, it\u2019s an instinct, it\u2019s who we are, it only gets numbed by things (distractions) like taking care of family, wars, raising children, falling in love, going to school, immigration, illness, age, money. 2- things are out of my control. 3- changing habits is not that hard. 4- all i want to do is create spaces of intimacy, i don\u2019t know anything, but i know that this is what i love to do and i am good at. 5- spaciousness is necessary. 6- to learn and keep learning, and once i stop wanting to learn then i know it\u2019s the end. 7- coping is an instinct too, we are all coping, no one is better than the other. 8- i no longer want to be in high consumption structures. 9- listening to birds early in the morning has changed me. 10- all relationships are bound to change, and that is a good thing. 11- i no longer want to look for a home or the meaning of it. 13- i want to want less. 14- one dream is to create a network for queer arab women that will kick ass. 15- i love all the relationships and connections i have. 16- my heart is my weapon. 17- i accept death. 18- music, i always dreamt of making and playing music and being surrounded by people who make music, i\u2019ve been trying since i was 9. 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